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Thursday, June 4, 2015

9 Ways to Increase Your Charisma

When Prince finished a showcase performance in a small Minneapolis movie theater on January 7, 1979, the Warner Records representatives walked out shaking their heads. Prince couldn’t believe it. Not ready for a tour? How was he supposed to sell any records?
But the label believed its new artist wasn’t a good enough performer to make a tour profitable. Prince was an excellent musician, they knew, but he lacked charisma. He needed to develop the ability to get people excited about his music by getting excited about him. Instead of signing off on a concert schedule, they sent him back to the studio to record a second album.
Prince made the album and, propelled by the success of its first single, “I Wanna Be Your Lover,” it entered the Billboard charts. Finally, Warner saw enough momentum to risk sending the still-awkward performer on the road. A lucky break came when singer Rick James, of “Super Freak” fame, invited Prince to open for him on his 1980 Fire It Up Tour.
“I felt sorry for him,” James later recalled. At first, anyway.
Prince began the tour with no knowledge of how to engage the crowd. But he was determined to improve, and he did. He schooled himself on how to be more charismatic on stage. He adopted the tactics of performers he admired, including James himself.
Prince believed that charisma could be practiced and perfected—and he was right.
By the end of that tour Prince commanded audiences, leading call-and-response chants, wowing them with dance moves, even flipping the microphone. Fans were so riled up by Prince’s performances, James felt overshadowed.
How did Prince get that good? By decoding—and mastering—the communication strategies that constitute a charismatic rock performance.
A team of management scholars headed by John Antonakis of the University of Lausanne Business School decided to do the samewith workplace charisma. They broke it down to a few concrete, learnable strategies, which they then taught to a group of randomly-selected middle managers through a five-hour group workshop and one-hour individual coaching session. Three months later, 360-degree evaluations revealed that the managers who had received the training were perceived as more charismatic, more competent, and more trustworthy on the job than before the intervention.(link is external with workplace charisma. They broke it down to a few concrete, learnable strategies, which they then taught to a group of randomly-selected middle managers through a five-hour group workshop and one-hour individual coaching session. Three months later, 360-degree evaluations revealed that the managers who had received the training were perceived as more charismatic, more competent, and more trustworthy on the job than before the intervention.Most advice for improving charisma consists of vague prescriptions like, "Show confidence.” But while it’s true that confidence increases perceptions of charisma, it's hard to fake. So is warmth, another common denominator of charismatic people. But the following tactics identified by Antonakis and colleagues are relatively easy to learn, adopt, and implement:
  • Use metaphors. You use metaphors whenever you compare your group to an army on the march or a sports team. Lady Gaga uses metaphor when she refers to her fans as “Little Monsters.” Prince invoked a powerful metaphor when he appeared on television with the word “slave” written across his cheek. Metaphors are charismatic because they simplify and stir people’s emotions and imagination.
  • Use stories and anecdotes. Personal stories can be used to great effect, especially stories of early struggles and challenges and how you overcame them. Rock stars use stories to make a stronger connection between their audience and their music. Paul McCartney, for example, introduces many live songs with an anecdote about the person the song is about. Others tell stories about things that happened to them in the town hosting the show.
  • Show moral conviction. Moral significance makes your message more meaningful. By appealing to the “right thing to do,” you reinforce core shared values and stir others to action. Rock stars display moral conviction to strengthen their bond with their audience. U2 had fans march around the stage with pictures of then-imprisoned Aung San Suu Kyi on their 360-degree Tour. Madonna printed “Pussy Riot” on her back during her MDNA tour in support of the imprisoned Russian group. And late Beastie Boy Adam "MCA" Yauch organized the Tibetan Freedom concerts, rallying fans and fellow musicians for Tibetan independence.
  • Express shared feelings as others. By revealing that you feel the same way as others do, you increase their identification with you. Statements such as, “I am just as overwhelmed as you are," or, "I am elated at this opportunity,” strengthen your emotional connection. Musicians also use shared feelings. Neil Young, though he's 68 years old, still acts like an “angry young man,” sharing feelings of disillusionment with his audiences.
  • Set high expectations and communicate confidence. By expecting much from others and yourself, you inspire those around you to be more than they are now. But it’s not enough to set high expectations: You have to let others know that you believe in them. When Prince signed and produced the band The Time for Warner Brothers, he insisted that they improve their stage show. According to then-keyboard player Jimmy Jam, Prince insisted that all band members sing harmony and dance while they played. “That’s what Prince did, time and again,” Jam said. “He taught us we could do things we’d never believed we could.”
  • Use contrasts to frame and focus messages. Contrasts are powerful rhetorical devices because they emphasize. Contrasting statements such as “Rather than counting how many hours you’ve put in, we care about how much value you create," or, "Most companies are letting people go but we’re hiring,” send a strong message. Rock stars do this, too: Madonna contrasts herself with Lady Gaga, singing “She’s not me!” on her MDNA tour. And Lady Gaga contrasts herself with performers who lip sync.
  • Use lists. Lists boost charisma because they give the impression of completeness. They send a message that you have a coherent understanding of an issue. For example, when you say “The new rules will affect us in three major ways,” you position yourself as an expert on an unknown topic.
  • Use rhetorical questions. Rhetorical questions draw other people in: “Is everyone having a good time tonight?” They also create anticipation. When you ask, “Where do we go from here?” you’ve got others hanging on every word.
  • Use nonverbal strategies to animate your words. By animating your body language, you engage others. Body gestures, facial expressions, and a vocal tone that demonstrate passion leave more memorable impressions, whether on a stage or around a meeting table.
Prince is now one of pop’s greatest performers. He believed that charisma could be learned—and he proved it. And like him, you can learn to have a more powerful effect on others.
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Sunday, July 13, 2014

Trent Shelton Is In The House!

 

For those of you who have seen his very inspirational videos on youtube, his tweets on twitter and posts on Facebook and Instagram, the time has come to see Mr. Trent Shelton LIVE! As you can see on his flyer above, his next stop will be in NYC on Saturday July 26th. If you are interested in seeing him live check out the website at the very bottom of the flyer and purchase your tickets there. Further details can be found there as well. This will be WORTH IT everybody!

I first came across Trent's page on facebook by accident through one of my facebook business buddies. Then again "by accident" is more like "Coincidence is the Angels' playground". My Guardian Angels guided me to befriend my current facebook business buddies to see Trent's inspirational messages! Little by little I came across 1 or 2 of his videos and picture posts. It peaked my interest right away because he was straight to the T in regards to some of the things I have gone through especially with 'Knowing Your Circle' in terms of friendship.

I have never been satisfied with the friends I've made over the years because they either had low self-esteem, jealous of me or BOOORING. They say, "A bird of a feather flocks together" but in these cases I did not have ANY of these negative qualities that these girls had so me this saying is not true. I just HAD to cut off these so called "friends" because my intuition was literally SCREAMING at me to let them go! And that's exactly what I did. I feel so much better now and I don't miss any of them! If no one is helping me grow or bring me up then I don't need them. I am a feeler so if something doesn't feel right or I straight up lose interest, I know for a fact that it's a combo of my intuition and Guardian Angels guiding me AWAY from it. I thank God everyday for this gift! In the meantime in between time, I am a loner and proud! I shall be a loner until God sends the right people my way. The positive, supportive, FUN, healthy self-esteemed people that I always wanted in my life...I BELIEVE that they are on their way. It's just a matter of time. So for those of you who can relate to me just remember to be confident in your own skin! If it means for you to eliminate those so called "friends" and be a loner for a while then do it! Be a friend to yourself, LOVE yourself, take yourself out and mingle with others just for the fun of it, attend inspirational seminars, join meetup and attend events that peak your interest, volunteer, etc. Just DO YOU!

Inspiration is what we all need whether we admit it or not and I have to say that Trent Shelton is a God send. He says it like it is! No sugar-coating, no bs. And we need more people like this in the world, seriously! I advise YOU who's reading this blog post right now to subscribe to Trent's channel on youtube and watch ALL his videos! I can assure you that there will be at least 1 video that you can relate to! As Trent says,"It all starts with YOU! #RehabTime".

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