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Trick or Treat Candle

Boo! Your favorite Halloween candy is here for a limited time only! Authentic Candy Corn scent is layered in orange, yellow, and white wax to complete the duplication of the traditional mellow cream candy. Get it before it's gone! Reveal & Repeat to discover what prizes find you! Every candle includes a bonus prize in addition to your choice of jewelry!

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• All three layers are scented candy corn
• Full size 21oz scented candle
• 100% all natural Soy candle 
• Burns for 100 to 150 hours. 
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Pumpkin Pie Tarts

What Thanksgiving dinner would be complete without pumpkin pie? Golden brown crust and smooth, spicy pumpkin, topped with a touch of homemade vanilla whipped cream! Our recipe uses cinnamon, nutmeg, and cloves to create an authentic pumpkin pie experience your whole family will love! Is your mouth watering yet? Infused with natural essential oils. 

Jumbo 5.5oz package of 6 scented wax tarts 

100% all natural soy wax tart. Jewelry hidden in every package of scented wax tarts.

• Up to 60 hours of vivid fragrance.
• Great for your tart warmer, candle warmer, potpourri pot or other electric warmer.
• Requires a warmer to melt the wax. Each package of wax tarts contains 1 piece of jewelry

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American Strong Candle

What is America? What are the values we cherish and the freedoms we fought for the most? Capitalism has made America great but without the sacrifice of our military, America would not be the same country we know today. The American Strong candle represents the personal sacrifice made by so many men and women. We are proud to be an American! American Strong is a woody, earthy mix of vanilla and sandalwood, warmed with musk and a touch of patchouli for a calming and long lasting scent.  Infused with natural cedarwood, patchouli, and clover leaf essential oils.

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Chrysalis - Bayberry Candle

The familiar refreshing scent of bayberry will bring back childhood memories of your home decorated for the holidays with fresh evergreen and holly. The fresh tang of bayberry pine is kissed with tart, red, berries. Middle notes of orange peel and clove are blended with the deepness of wild sage and patchouli.

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• Premium 2 wick, 21oz scented candle
• Infused with natural essential oils.
• 100% all natural Soy wax 
• Burns for 100+ hours. 

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Chrysalis - Merry Mistletoe Candle

Magical memories are made under the mistletoe, and wherever Merry Mistletoe is burning! Light blue spruce is kissed by frosted cranberry with hints of peppermint and citrus. A truly festive scent that will delight anyone, especially if accompanied by a kiss!

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Chrysalis - Peppermint Candle

What do you get when you combine peppermint candy canes and white chocolate? The perfect Christmas treat! Bright, cooling, peppermint is sweetly balanced with the sweet warmth of white chocolate, like a holiday hug or plate of homemade peppermint bark!

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6 Signs of Narcissism You May Not Know About

How can you recognize the fragility behind the narcissist’s grandiosity?

The recently published 5th edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) lists precisely the same nine criteria for narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as did the previous version, published 19 years earlier. So these longstanding diagnostic yardsticks are by now quite familiar—not only to professionals but to interested laypeople as well. Because only the extreme, or “classic,” narcissist fits all of these criteria, DSM specifies that an individual need meet only five of them (barely more than half) to warrant this unflattering label.

As a starting point, I’ll reiterate these selected criteria—before, that is, adding six important ones of my own, which either complement or extend these “official” yardsticks. My particular measures for identifying pathological narcissists are based not only on my exposure to the voluminous writings on this character disorder, but also on 30+ years of clinical experience. This experience includes doing personal, couples, and family counseling with such troublesome individuals. But it also involves working independently with those involved with narcissists—whether their distressed children, spouses, parents, friends, or business associates—who repeatedly express enormous frustration in trying to cope with them.

To begin, however, here are DSM’s requirements (slightly condensed, and with minor bracketed amendments) for “earning” the unenviable diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance. 

2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. 

3. Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). 

4. Requires excessive admiration [regularly fishes for compliments, and is highly susceptible to flattery]. 

5. Has a sense of entitlement. 

6. Is interpersonally exploitative. 

7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling [or, I would add, unable] to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. 

8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her. 

9. Shows arrogant, haughty [rude and abusive] behaviors or attitudes.

So what’s left out here? Actually, as regards identifying descriptors, quite a bit. And I’ve no doubt that other therapists could add further to the six additional characteristics I’ll provide here—features that, although regrettably minimized or omitted from DSM, I‘ve routinely seen displayed by the many dysfunctional narcissists I’ve worked with. So, to enumerate them, such individuals:

1. Are highly reactive to criticism Or anything they assume or interpret as negatively evaluating their personality or performance. This is why if they’re asked a question that might oblige them to admit some vulnerability, deficiency, or culpability, they’re apt to falsify the evidence (i.e., lie—yet without really acknowledging such prevarication to themselves), hastily change the subject, or respond as though they’d been asked something entirely different. Earlier for Psychology Today I wrote a post highlighting this supercharged sensitivity called “The Narcissist’s Dilemma: They Can Dish It Out, But . . . ”. And this aspect of their disturbance underscores that their ego—oversized, or rather artificially “inflated”—can hardly be viewed as strong or resilient. On the contrary, it’s very easily punctured. (And note here another related piece of mine, “Our Egos: Do They Need Strengthening—or Shrinking?”). What these characteristics suggest is that, at bottom and despite all their egotistic grandiosity, they...

2. Have low self-esteem. This facet of their psyche is complicated, because superficially their self-regard would appear to be higher and more assured than just about anyone else’s. Additionally, given their customary "drivenness," it’s not uncommon for them to rise to positions of power and influence, as well as amass a fortune (and see here my post “Narcissism: Why It’s So Rampant in Politics”). But if we examine what’s beneath the surface of such elevated social, political, or economic stature—or their accomplishments generally—what typically can be inferred is a degree of insecurity vastly beyond anything they might be willing to avow.

That is, in various ways they’re constantly driven to prove themselves, both to others and to their not-so-confident “inner child” self. This is the self-doubting, recessive part of their being that, though well hidden from sight, is nonetheless afflicted with feelings and fears of inferiority. Inasmuch as their elaborate defense system effectively wards off their having to face what their bravado masks, they’re highly skilled at exhibiting, or “posturing,” exceptionally high self-esteem. But their deeper insecurities are yet discernible in their so often fishing for compliments and their penchant for bragging and boasting about their (frequently exaggerated) achievements. That is, they’re experts at complimenting themselves! And when—despite all their self-aggrandizement— others are critical of them, they...

3. Can be inordinately self-righteous and defensive. Needing so much to protect their overblown but fragile ego, their ever-vigilant defense system can be extraordinarily easy to set off. I’ve already mentioned how reactive they typically are to criticism, but in fact anything said or done that they perceive as questioning their competence can activate their robust self-protective mechanisms. Which is why so many non-narcissists I’ve worked with have shared how difficult it is to get through to them in situations of conflict. For in challenging circumstances it’s almost as though their very survival depends on being right or justified, whereas flat out (or humbly) admitting a mistake—or, for that matter, uttering the words “I’m sorry” for some transgression—seem difficult to impossible for them.

Further, their “my way or the highway” attitude in decision-making—their stubborn.competitive insistence that their point of view prevail—betrays (even as it endeavors to conceal) their underlying doubts about not being good, strong, or smart enough. And the more their pretentious, privileged, exaggeratedly puffed-up self-image feels endangered by another’s position, the more likely they are to...

4. React to contrary viewpoints with anger or rage. In fact, this characteristic is so common in narcissists that it’s always surprised me that DSM doesn’t specifically refer to it among its nine criteria. Repeatedly, writers have noted that angry outbursts are almost intrinsic to both narcissistic and borderline personality disorders. And although (unlike the borderline) it’s not particular fears of abandonment that bring out their so-called “narcissistic rage,” both personality disorders generally react with heated emotion when others bring their deepest insecurities too close to the surface.

The reason that feelings of anger and rage are so typically expressed by them is that in the moment they externalize the far more painful anxiety- or shame-related emotions hiding just beneath them. When they’re on the verge of feeling—or re-feeling—some hurt or humiliation from their past, their consequent rage conveniently “transfers” these unwanted feelings to another (and see here my PT post “Anger—How We Transfer Feelings of Guilt, Hurt, and Fear”).

The accompanying message that gets communicated through such antagonistic emotions is “I’m not bad (wrong, stupid, mean, etc.), you are!” Or, it could even be: “I’m not narcissistic, or borderline! You are!” (Or, in slightly milder version, “If I’m narcissistic, or borderline, then so are you!”) And if the mentally healthier individual has no clue as to what provoked their outburst in the first place, such a sudden explosion is likely to make them feel not only baffled but hurt, and maybe even frightened. But what cannot be overemphasized here is that narcissists...

5. Project onto others qualities, traits, and behaviors they can’t—or won’t—accept in themselves. Because they’re compelled from deep within to conceal deficits or weaknesses in their self-image, they habitually redirect any unfavorable appraisal of themselves outwards, unconsciously trusting that doing so will forever keep at bay their deepest suspicions about themselves. Getting anywhere close to being obliged to confront the darkness at their innermost core can be very scary, for in reality their emotional resources are woefully underdeveloped.

Broadly recognized as narcissists by their fundamental lack of self-insight, very few of them (depending, of course, on how far out they are on the narcissistic continuum) can achieve such interior knowledge. For in a variety of ways their rigid, unyielding defenses can be seen as more or less defining their whole personality. And that’s why one of the most reliable ways for them to feel good about themselves—and “safe” in the world they’re essentially so alienated from—is to invalidate, devalue, or denigrate others. So they’ll focus on others’ flaws (whether or not they really exist) rather than acknowledge, and come to terms with, their own. And in many curious ways this habit causes them to...

6. Have poor interpersonal boundaries. It’s been said about narcissists that they can’t tell where they end and the other person begins. Unconsciously viewing others as “extensions” of themselves, they regard them as existing primarily to serve their own needs—just as they routinely put their needs before everyone else’s (frequently, even their own children). Since others are regarded (if they’re regarded at all!) as what in the literature is often called “narcissistic supplies”—that is, existing chiefly to cater to their personal desires—they generally don’t think about others independently of how they might “use” them to their own advantage. Whatever narcissists seek to give themselves, they generally expect to get from others, too (which is yet another dimension of their famous—or infamous—sense of entitlement).

Even beyond this, their porous boundaries and unevenly developed interpersonal skills may prompt them to inappropriately dominate conversations and share with others intimate details about their life (though some narcissists, it should be noted, can display an extraordinary, however Machiavellian, social savvy). Such private information would probably focus on disclosing facts others would be apt to withhold. But having (at least consciously) much less of a sense of shame, they’re likely to share things they’ve said or done that most of us would be too embarrassed or humiliated to admit. Still, with an at times gross insensitivity to how others might react to their words, they’re likely to blurt out things, or even boast about them, that others can’t help but view as tasteless, demeaning, insulting, or otherwise offensive.

They might, for instance, share—and with considerable pride!—how they “chewed” someone out, and expect the other person to be impressed by their courage or cleverness, when in fact the listener may be appalled by their lack of kindness, tact, or restraint. Additionally, they may ask others questions that are far too personal or intimate—again unwittingly irritating or upsetting them. And such a situation can be particularly difficult for the other person if the narcissist is in a position of authority over them so that not responding could, practically, put them in some jeopardy.

To conclude, I can only hope that these additional characterizations of the pathological narcissist (vs. those with less pronounced narcissistic qualities) may be helpful in enabling you to identify them before their “malignancy” does a number on you. And if you’ve already been duped by their machinations or manipulations, perhaps this piece will be a “heads up” for you to prevent them from wreaking any further havoc in your life.

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Making Holidays Happy Days

The holidays are happy days for everyone, right? Most people are living in a Norman Rockwell painting, walking through the park holding hands with snow falling and receiving their “perfect” presents. Of course you know this isn’t true. In fact, holidays are often the most depressing time of the year for some people.

Popular culture would have you believe that everyone is experiencing their bliss during Christmas and Chanukah. The “perfect” present ads are everywhere, and we just need to rush out and get that gift that will be life-changing for that special someone.

Unfortunately, for many people holidays enlarge the problems they’ve been having. Loss of a loved one through death or divorce, loss of a job, dysfunction or unhappiness within the family, and financial troubles are all situations that are difficult at any time, but especially during the holiday season. While you may not be able to change your external circumstances and create the holiday you believe you “should” have, there are a few steps you can take to make the holidays happier days this year. To increase your happiness and contentedness factors during the holiday season and into the new year consider:

Reframing your expectations. The Norman Rockwell painting is just that; a painting. It’s not reality for most people. Look at today’s reality shows to get a dose of what real life looks like! Instead of dreaming about what your holiday should be, reframe your view. Is there something you can do that’s meaningful to you that doesn’t mean a perfect holiday? Can you set a goal for something that is less of a stretch? Just by resetting expectations (read: lowering them), you might be able to meet them more easily.

Do something for someone who needs it. Most people can get attached to what they don’t have, or what they have lost, not realizing that there IS always someone in a worse situation than they are in. Even if you have a terminal illness, or have lost a beloved family member, there is someone else dealing with that same issue, or more. Can you find a nursing home, children’s hospice, or homeless shelter where you can donate your time and energy? Oftentimes just by being around those who need our help, we are able to view our own situation in a different light. Do something for someone else and see if it doesn’t lift your spirits a bit.

Create a “Thank you” list and read it every day multiple times. You are dealing with a lot right now, that’s true – but your life probably has, or at some point has had, some joy and good will. Can you identify those things that you’ve been blessed with at some point? Can you list attributes of yourself that you are happy to have? Focusing on what you have that’s good can sometimes minimize the impact of what’s missing or negative.

Throw yourself a time-limited pity party. You have lost something or someone, you are down and out or just feeling blue. That’s real. Instead of putting on rose-colored glasses and pretending it isn’t, give yourself a time limit on mourning whatever you need to mourn. On Tuesday morning from 9-11, just let yourself feel awful for those two hours. When that time is up, resolve to focus on the good. Resolve to find options that help you to be more positive. Resolve to take a step that helps you, not hurts you. Set limits and stick to them.Manage your negative self-talk. Catch yourself being down about your situation. Notice the thoughts that run through your head. Realize that the negative thoughts build upon one another until you are feeling so depleted that nothing seems good. Instead of letting those negative thoughts run away, stop them in their tracks. Tell them, “You are not invited to my holiday party!” and then start focusing on things that make you feel good, or better.

Do something nice for yourself. Do you want to start an exercise PROGRAM? Would you like to learn to sew? Do you have a series you have been wanting to binge watch (or read)? Is there a friend who always makes you feel better? Identify what could be good for you and DO it! You don’t have to spend money you don’t have; pick something that is in your comfort zone and won’t cause you more pain but that you would enjoy.

Have a plan and work the plan. The holiday season is here. You have something you need to deal with, and you may want to make a choice this year to deal with it more effectively. You can decide not to take a step but if you want to have better options, decide what those should be and commit to them. Make a plan of what you will do, how you will do it and when. Then, work your plan.

Help your holidays to be happier days by making choices that work for you.

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Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade NYC

Turkey, stuffing and a helium-filled Thomas the Tank Engine are on the menu as friends and families gather across the United States to celebrate Thanksgiving.

Here's a look at how Americans are celebrating:

A MACY'S THANKSGIVING DAY SUCCESS

Heavy security including bomb-sniffing dogs and police helicopters protected spectators of all ages who lined the route of the nationally televised Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade, which counted Thomas the Tank Engine, Paddington bear and the Red Mighty Morphin Power Ranger among its six new giant balloons.

Before the parade was over, snow flurries had replaced drizzle as thousands of people discovered they could get no closer than a long block away from the colorful spectacle.

"I can't go to the front. I can only see from here," said Ivan Souza of Florianopolis, Brazil, as he watched with his wife and two children.

Daryl Winchester, 17, of Queens, was luckier, snagging a front-row spot across the street from grandstands where the parade began.

"This is great. It's nice to feel so festive for the holidays," she said as she took pictures, waved and shouted encouragement to parade participants.

Shannon Hampton, a Lakeland, Florida, resident celebrating her 18th birthday with a friend said the parade was exciting.

"My favorite part has to be the balloons because they are so much bigger in person than you think they would be," she said.

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